Recent public outrage over domestic violence is long overdue, but the problem is far larger than a few football players and a federal judge. For us, as a church, it is a serious pastoral problem. Addressing domestic violence is just as central to the Catholic mission as helping the poor and the hungry. It is not something that only occurs with celebrities whose abusive behavior it spotlighted by the media, one in four women in America is a victim of domestic violence and every six hours a woman in this country dies at the hand of her spouse.

What that means is that these victims live next door to you or down the street. They may be sitting in the next pew at Mass. It is a crime that usually occurs behind closed doors, but it doesn’t stay there. It spreads out in concentric circles. It is also a safe environment issue, not only because of the danger to the abused spouse, but because of the children who witness the abuse. Children who grow up in violent homes are six times more likely to commit suicide. They are 24 times more likely to commit sexual assaults and 75 times more likely to commit crimes against people.

Who are these perpetrators? First of all, they are bullies. Domestic violence is all about power. It is about possessiveness and jealousy. Abusers are quick to blame others for their actions, “She made me angry.” Their abusive behavior is usually manifested in other ways through playful use of force or cruelty to animals. Frequently they have been victims of abuse themselves.

Victims of domestic violence should be encouraged to seek professional help which is available. Information on resources may be obtained from the Diocesan Safe Environment Office at 214-379-2812.

Domestic violence is unacceptable and against the will of God.

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